The date that took awkward to another level

I was seeing a guy for a week who I felt was very interesting. He was slightly taller than me, well-spoken and dressed very classy at all times. I will not say that he was handsome, but he had some charisma that attracted me. I kept quiet because I believe if you meet a person you like, you shouldn’t jinx it by falling head over heels instantly. Besides that, I like to analyze every move to see if the man meets my checklist or not. Sigh, what can I say, I am a demanding woman!

This so called gentleman disappointed pretty soon by acting inappropriately according to me. Ladies, you know how a man can get on your nerves when you expect to see them on a certain day but they give you a blunt NO. This gentleman did exactly that and said, “No, I am going to the movies with my friends”. I was furious but I told him to enjoy his movie after which he made it even worse. He told me I could join him and his friends for the movie as well but later called and said, “My friends booked the tickets already and there is no seat next to us anymore, but I will make it up to you tomorrow since I am off”.

Next day arrived and the gentleman called me to inform that he was in a meeting around 11 a.m., even though he had told me he will make it up to me because it was a day off. At 3 p.m. he called again and informed me that he was in another meeting. At 9 p.m. he finally told me that he was on his way to see me. His tone was so casual and guilt free as if it was expected from me to wait for him all day in order to be available when he has time to spare.

He informed me he was extremely hungry and we should go eat Chinese cuisine. I tell him I already had my dinner because it was past nine but I can join him. On the way, we had a “fun filled” conversation about his organizing skills.

We did not know how to eat authentic Chinese cuisine. There was a big pan filled with boiling soup and condiment that the waiter left on the table and ran away before we could ask anything. Next to it was a bowl full of raw meat and another bowl with raw vegetables. We looked at each other in amazement and wonder how he would eat it all. Anyway, the dinner was spent with some laughs here and there and a waiter showed us how the food was supposed to be eaten.

Just when I thought this date could not get any more awkward, the gentleman asked for the bill and as soon as the waiter got the bill, he passed it to me instantly without even looking at it. I was shocked by his gesture. I only got a bottle of water and he had the nerves to make me pay for the entire meal. I returned the bill politely and asked him to pay for it. “Why would you want me to pay the bill?” I asked.

His answer was as shocking as his gesture: “Because I am broke, and if I end up paying for every girl I go out with, I will become bankrupt for sure”.

Wow! Just wow! He must be kidding, I think to myself. Why would you go to fancy places when you do not want to spend and why must you go out with several girls at the same time when you are so scared of going bankrupt?

I fail to understand what the world has come to. There are very few men out there who can truly carry the title of being “gentlemen” while others just take advantage of women and become cheap for their pleasure. How hard is it to keep your intentions out in the open? How hard is it to not to pretend to be someone you are not? If you have the guts to take advantage of a woman, you should also have the guts to be honest from the beginning of any relationship.

There was no way I would agree to pay the bill, so he eventually had to.